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Rey Katz (they/them)'s avatar

Thanks for sharing this, Robin. Definitely illustrates how this fearmongering isn't based on real threats.

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Kevin Pendry's avatar

When I was a child, we (the boys) were taught not to linger in men's restrooms, because homosexuals were in there and would do unknown things to us then cut off our genitalia and leave us to die. The story has changed some, but it's essentially the same. Fear and ignorance mixed together make a horrible brew.

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Robin Reardon's avatar

You got that right. I wish I had trouble believing that what you describe actually happened to boys. But I know you. And I know it's true.

I'm sorry.

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Kevin Pendry's avatar

The irony is, a member of my family abused me. Not a stranger, not a drag queen, not even a homosexual. I don't believe what I was told about men's rooms. I did then.

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Robin Reardon's avatar

Oh, Kevin. I didn't know that. I know there's nothing I can say to make that better, let alone to make it not have happened. But please know that if I could, I would. 💔

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Kevin Pendry's avatar

I know it's not the basis of my problems. I was already damaged by then. But I started using my crutches that I had to stop when I had my heart attack at 43. Smoking heavily, drinking, and drugs. I was 12.

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Robin Reardon's avatar

And despite all this, you are a warm, wonderful, loving person. I admire you.

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Kevin Pendry's avatar

Thank you, Robin. You don't know what that means to me.

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